Last night as I was getting ready to shut down for the night and turn off my phone… (well I don’t actually turn it off, but I put it in another room to charge, where I can’t reach it until the next day.) Any way back to what I really wanted to tell you… a got a message from one of my Facebook friends, she wanted to chat and I could sense that there was a problem.

Yes, I was right.

Her husband had a situation with their soon to be 10 year old child and had beaten her, hurting both her hands and eyes!

What had happened?

Dad had asked her to close a door, which she had done and then sighed.

Dad got angry and beat her with his belt, She ended up injured!

Now the result of all this was the child telling her dad:

‘Daddy this is Domestic Violence!’ and then to her mum she said much later on,

‘Mummy I don’t want to live anymore.’

‘I will go so Daddy can continue to have his way’… this last one is the approxiamately the summary of the rest of her comment.

I am sharing this because I am concerned and afraid for our children.

Yes we have the right to punish our children, but must we do so unjustly and push them to the brim?

This child is hurting.

I adviced for them to call a help center in the morning and stay with the child all night, as the Mum who was really heart broken had just managed to take the kitchen knife off of her child, while Dad kept telling this 10 year old that she should kill herself if she wants to!

Obviously there is much more going on beyond this beating.

It’s a marriage gone wrong, and in need of desperate help, but for me it is more importantly about a child who needs help before all hell lets loose and she does something fatal to herself!

Parent’s please be mindful of what you do and don’t do infront of your children.

Get help if your marriage is in crisis.

This child is aware of the adult vibes.

She is reacting to it. At one point she has asked, ‘Why did you marry him?’

She has stated, ‘I will never get married!’

She now has an eye injury, is in pain and wants to commit sucide!

Mothers take action if you are in this situation. Your first duty is to your children and not to yourself and saving your marriage!

Fathers take resposibility for the safety of your children, they did not ask you to bring them into this world, but they are here now. Deal with your demons in the marriage by seeking counsel of trained experts who have been helping many families find their way back to the right fit marriage, as Madam Modupe Ehirim rightly puts it.

Refusing help will lead to a lot of things going wrong.

I share because this is not the only family in crisis,

I speak out because I am concerned for the physical, emotional and mental well being of the next generation.

Let’s do right by our children.

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Refusing help will lead to a lot of things going wrong.

I share because this is not the only family in crisis,

I speak out because I am concerned for the physical, emotional and mental well being of the next generation.

Let’s do right by our children.